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NumptyNuts
02-28-06, 04:56 PM
OK - Kids natural dad sends us a CD today full of snaps of him to add to a website. A website I may add that 'Lottie & I' do together prob one of the very few things I can teach her.

I dont want his face on the site, not one I am working on with her, yes hes her dad but if he wants a page he can go set one up for £50.

Anyhow I mailed him about it - see below -


XXXX,

Just a quick mail,

I understand from Lottie that you have sent her a cd with pictures on.

This is all very nice and everything though I will not be adding them on my server, I understand its for Lottie's web page though this is a project which is funded for by myself. You need to realise you are the guy that went off with Kate's best friend and started a new family, I don't want you face all over my web servers.

Its quite simple, I can be civil with you though certain things cross the line and this I am afraid is where I have to draw the line. Lottie can by all means set a site up to publish your images etc, maybe you can do this with her as separate project her?

You currently contribute nothing towards Lottie's upbringing and what's more have not shown any attempt to do so - but that's fine I understand you are sick man currently fighting some disease which has stopped you working for a period of time and have another young family and partner to support.

The trip to Japan is a fantastic gesture and opportunity for Lotz I know that while in Japan you ensure Lottie does everything she wants and can do during the trip and for that I take my hat of to you. I do not however feel happy with the way in which you handled it as you did not have the decency to talk to Kate first of all.

Despite what you may think we also plan for things esp round school holidays a phone call before hand to Kate may have been a nice idea.

Whether any of us like it or not there is a clear divide between Lottie two life's, there's a level of tolerance and I think you need to respect that.

Mark some of your actions over the past 12 months are shocking, you play a dangerous game and tread a fine line sooner or later its going to bite you in the ass. Lottie needs a father not a sugar daddy, she needs to spend time with her Brother / Sister after all they are the ONLY good thing she has gained from you inability to keep your hands to your self.

Mark please do me a favour, take you pictures and do your own project, save everyone a lot of pain as under no circumstances will they be added to my web servers, I would not expect you to allow it if it were the other way round. The kids that's fine they have no history or have nothing to do with your divorce, but yourself and Donna - its just not going to happen.

Hope all is well with you and you are feeling better, would like to give Lotz some cash to take to Japan so if you can figure out the best way to do this i.e. if you are buying Travellers chqs - giving Lottie cash is not the smartest thing to do as I am sure you can understand

let me know,

Get well soon

Regards

Paul

JT
02-28-06, 04:59 PM
A website I may add that 'Lottie & I' do together prob one of the very few things I can teach her.

Lets hope her mother has something to teach her then :takethat:

NumptyNuts
02-28-06, 05:52 PM
Lets hope her mother has something to teach her then :takethat:


Ha ha :-)

rogue
02-28-06, 06:07 PM
sounds fair to me, why would he want piccys of himself on your home project anyway?

Shandy McAndy
02-28-06, 09:30 PM
sometimes its easier to bite you're lip. :twocents:

NumptyNuts
02-28-06, 09:38 PM
sounds fair to me, why would he want piccys of himself on your home project anyway?


I think Lotz asked for them - which is all fair enough. The thing is I know who will see the site and it will be like airing your dirty skiddies in public.

We gave her a site in the main to write / publish her stories posting pictures is not where we want to be going.

Any how having the fall out now and will let you know when its ended, upshot is Im the bad guy as thought, though I feel a shed loads better having done what I done.

NumptyNuts
02-28-06, 09:39 PM
sometimes its easier to bite you're lip. :twocents:


Yes, it is but after while if you keep biting then you bite it off ;-)


thats what happened - I broke free :)

Shandy McAndy
02-28-06, 09:45 PM
Yes, it is but after while if you keep biting then you bite it off ;-)


thats what happened - I broke free :)

I always think a good punch on the nose solves most issues

Geezer
02-28-06, 09:49 PM
I would say you have gone way too far posting your personal shit on here.

Geezer
02-28-06, 09:50 PM
I would also like to post my favourite smilie :gaylords:

TommyMac
02-28-06, 09:51 PM
If its her site, shouldn't it feature ppl in her life.

If she wants to put pics of her old man on her webby, then that aint unreasonable.

You have a wrath of fury that denies free speech on your server! Nazi server!!!

There wouldn't be a problem if you had intercepted the cd and hiden it...

Shandy McAndy
02-28-06, 09:54 PM
If its her site, shouldn't it feature ppl in her life.


fair point

You have a wrath of fury that denies free speech on your server! Nazi server!!!

Her dad has Free speach but shopuld xpect Smiths to be the one who pays for his free speech

NumptyNuts
02-28-06, 09:56 PM
If its her site, shouldn't it feature ppl in her life.

If she wants to put pics of her old man on her webby, then that aint unreasonable.

You have a wrath of fury that denies free speech on your server! Nazi server!!!

There wouldn't be a problem if you had intercepted the cd and hiden it...


The pictures have Lotz happy and cuddling the women who was the reason her parent split up. This xams she was presented with, and to be fair a great gift in a photo album with these images in. We looked through as she was so chuffed and it really hurt our lass.

To have the on the web for her former and his current colleagues to see etc is just a little to much.

I have offered them help to make their own pages of that - but I can't do it, I love my missus dearly and do not want to do anything that I know will hurt her.

TommyMac
02-28-06, 09:57 PM
Its free speech as long as the server admin approves, nice!

NumptyNuts
02-28-06, 09:58 PM
fair point

Yes though when we bought the name the agreed use was for publishing stories. If this had been requested from the start we would just not have had the site.

Shandy McAndy
02-28-06, 10:02 PM
Its free speech as long as the server admin approves, nice!

Speech isnt free. Never has been. Especially when you expect the man paying to bring up you're child to pay for it

NumptyNuts
02-28-06, 10:03 PM
Its free speech as long as the server admin approves, nice!

Who said anything about free speach.......shes 11 and has the ability to publish to the world, you have to learn how to use that power or it will bite you in the ass, unless you are sitting down?

slaxxx
02-28-06, 10:04 PM
Can she just make another site with his pics on it?

For free she can just use an image host (or the blogger/phobos thing) and make a blogger blog w the pics on it?

Costs nothing, easy to teach, everyone is happy?

TommyMac
02-28-06, 10:06 PM
Yes though when we bought the name the agreed use was for publishing stories. If this had been requested from the start we would just not have had the site.

End of that day mate, u pursue this pictural denial of her father's existense your end up the bad guy.

Shandy McAndy
02-28-06, 10:14 PM
End of that day mate, u pursue this pictural denial of her father's existense your end up the bad guy.

:agree:

Geezer
02-28-06, 10:38 PM
The pictures have Lotz happy and cuddling the women who was the reason her parent split up. This xams she was presented with, and to be fair a great gift in a photo album with these images in. We looked through as she was so chuffed and it really hurt our lass.

To have the on the web for her former and his current colleagues to see etc is just a little to much.

I have offered them help to make their own pages of that - but I can't do it, I love my missus dearly and do not want to do anything that I know will hurt her.

You sound like a jealous control freak.
You complain about pictures of her father with another woman, how about you and her mother?, you ain't just a picture, you are there.

So this other woman was the reason they split then what is your problem, if it hadn't been for that you wouldn't be her mother now.

So an 11 year old girl who loves her father should not be allowed to do what she wants with his pictures?, you pay for her web space so you have the right to deny her that, fuck off!. That is just control freakish behaviour, you sound jealous.

So you punish this girl for what her father did, yeah good idea.

NumptyNuts
02-28-06, 10:40 PM
Can she just make another site with his pics on it?

For free she can just use an image host (or the blogger/phobos thing) and make a blogger blog w the pics on it?

Costs nothing, easy to teach, everyone is happy?

Yes this is what we are looking to do - :-)

NumptyNuts
02-28-06, 10:53 PM
So an 11 year old girl who loves her father should not be allowed to do what she wants with his pictures?, you pay for her web space so you have the right to deny her that, fuck off!. That is just control freakish behaviour, you sound jealous.

No, certainly not if it will cause upset and offend her mother.

The rest of you view is quite interesting, would like to give it some thought before I reply.

JT
02-28-06, 11:02 PM
The rest of you view is quite interesting, would like to give it some thought before I reply.

you know by now, replies on adult webmaster forums isnt based on thought, but beer

NumptyNuts
02-28-06, 11:03 PM
you know by now, replies on adult webmaster forums isnt based on thought, but beer


Just tucking into some now :cheers2: